I was at a funeral a while back, and, I was a wreck. I mean, in that moment, I felt as if I had lost everything. This person was so dear to me. And, it had been the first time in years that I had cried, and someone came up to me and said “Don’t cry, celebrate, this person is in a better place”. My heart in that moment was wanting to go tell them to screw themselves. Now, this person meant well but, her tact was incredibly stupid. What I really wanted to hear was “I know how you feel”.
Last night I was reflecting upon the great community you feel when you meet someone who knows what you’re going through. I was reading a book last week by a guy named Richard Rohr, and, I felt like the dialogue in the book was being spoken directly into my heart. The affirmation, was so incredible in that moment because I could say in my heart and in my head “I am not alone”.
AA is one of the most beautiful examples of this in the world, because you know why they are there, and when someone says “I know your pain”. You know that they do.
I think this is why community is so essential to followers of Christ. We are called here to live life together, to experience together and be with one another. We are called to be vulnerable, to share our hearts, our pain, our joy, our suffering, our peace, our hope.
I pray that you have someone in your life that can say to you “I know how you feel”.