Sex is death. At least for the 1 in 3 women, and, the 1 in 5 men who are sexually abused. Or, for the unfortunate eight million people who struggle with eating disorders and are insecure about their physical image. Or, for those who have been chastised by the Church saying that sex is evil, that you are horrible if you have had premarital sex. Because of all of the shame sitting around sex, and, because we can’t escape the fact that we are sexual beings, we participate in the closet activities of pornography, strip clubs and even prostitution. And, this is why we don’t believe God when he tells us that Sex is good. Our experiences indicate otherwise.
If the Bible is true that the Holy Spirit is called the well of life, then why doesn’t sex bring us life? The Holy Spirit is the creative power that brings life into us. The Bible teaches us that Sex creates life (which the Spirit would have to be at work there). But, also, sex unites life by bringing together two people and making them one (so the Holy Spirit would have to be at work there). While, the Bible doesn’t present a strong case against Pre-Marital sex (Church History does), there is a lot of wisdom in saying that it’s probably not good for my spirit and soul to allow constant battling spirits within me. Therefore, one should probably wait until marriage to have it. At least this is what I tell my sorry single self.
When God is present in Sex, we are able to participate in an extremely human act. And, what do all human beings desire? The desire to love, and, be loved. The desire to know, and, be known. The desire to long, and, to belong. All of which of these are met in life. We are intimately longed for. We are intimately known. We are intimately loved. God is able to use his Spirit (The comforter) to reconcile shames and insecurities, known and not known to us. God is able to bring two people to unity to create life within each of them (both emotionally and physiologically), and, obviously, to create life born out of them.
When God is not present in Sex, we find the degrading of human beings, in the most detrimental way. Psychologists agree that the hardest addictions to kick, are sexual addictions. Psychologists agree that the most damaging experience in life, is sexual abuse, because, it destroys all forms of intimacy, trust and the ability to experience pleasure. Sex, therefore, becomes a mean for one person, or both people, to find a means to an end. A singular, satisfactory release, and, a selfish act, rather than the selfless act of meeting another persons desires. Sex like this, creates levels of shame and feelings of unworthiness.
I don’t know much about Sex, but, it appears to me, that God likes it, and, desires it for humans, as a means to produce more and better human beings.