Recently, this guy I know confessed to me and a couple of people we were with that his girlfriend of a long time was cheating on him for his friend. He was passionately sharing how upset and betrayed he felt. He said he was so upset that he drove over to the next town and had sex with this girl who liked him…
This story is far to real for my generation but it makes no sense….. So his very meaningful relationship with your girlfriend was ended by a betraying act of sex, so you participate in a very meaningless act of sex? How does that make sense?
Sex has been deeply watered down by my generation, unfortunately. 90% of people are having sex before the age of 19 and yet the only people who are really in love by age 19 are Cory and Topanga, or Romeo and Juliet, or Zack and Kelly. This mindset has left half of my generation with STD’s by the time they’re my age (24). And, anyone who doesn’t think that sex is scarring has never talked to anyone who has been sexually abused, or cheated on, or someone who is recovering from sex trafficking.
A lot of what I have been seeing this week around me has been dealing with the issue of homosexuality. My state (Minnesota) is in a very deep legislative battle trying to permanently ban Gay marriage from the state. And, the left leaning Christian organization Sojourners recently banned an ad that was clearly affirming homosexuality. And, many progressive Christians I know were deeply upset or confused by this.
So if Sex is allowed to be promiscuous, and, we find it to be a good thing to have things like friends with benefits, then how can we get upset when someone cheats on us? It’s not like sex requires some type of emotional, psychological, spiritual and sacred devotion that person. And, if sex is not sacred and important, then how can we invest so much energy fighting for or against gay marriage? And, if sex is so empty why would homosexual claim that gay marriage is a human rights issue? Or, if sex is so empty, then why would anyone fight for the sanctity of marriage by excluding homosexuals from this? Why would we fight for or against gay people becoming clergy in our Churches?
I believe that if we are going to participate in any discussions of sexuality and its role in Government, we must begin by noting the sacred element that it holds. And, if we are able to hold the sacredness of it in all of its humanity, then we can begin self-awareness to our own actions and decisions. We will be able to consider others perspectives with compassion and grace because we can come from a truly real place of love and hope for that person.
Any time we are talking about sex, we are entering truly sacred territory and we best learn to be loving and compassionate people because when we stomp on others sacred grounds we are either asking for warfare, or, we are being barbaric and annihilating others in the process.