Throughout this whole week we have discussed why the Church is losing my generation. We have discussed the issues of Relationality (http://wp.me/pFnzm-dP), Substance (http://wp.me/pFnzm-dS) and Apathy (http://wp.me/pFnzm-dW). My generation is a true enigma, a complete identity mess. We are polarized, and, yet we want relationships. In a larger sense, many of us have become the extremes of the things we have observed. Kids in my generation who grow up religious either reject or become über religious. People who have hard-working and independent parents, often become lazy or extremely hard-working and independent. A lot of the time, when people are following others they often become an extreme version of the generation before them. We become louder and more militant. And, in many instances when end up rejecting it, or embracing it even more, we often become angry or cynical.
I have spent a lot of my time in this camp. After being spiritually abused by Churches that I grew up in, people who I respected, classmates I went to school with, I became very angry at the Church. I would ask questions, and they would shoot me down. I would make observance about the failures of the Church and society, and I would be belittled by the masses. When you are attacked for something that you see as wrong, it is very easy to become cynical. And, with how much my generation is beginning to think more and more differently than previous generations, it has been easy to become angry and cynical.
But, don’t give up on us. In our immaturity and lack of identity, many of us have fallen into an us vs them mindset. This is what the immature ego does. This is what the immature identity does. We make enemies. We need to be proven right and in doing so we have lost the point of our cause because it was no longer about us serving something bigger. It was about us needing validation, a sense of self-w0rth and self-purpose. So forgive us. Sometimes, in finding ourselves we become loud and angry, so forgive us. Sometimes, when we are spat on, we become cynical and more hopeless. So forgive us.
My hope is that when you can recognize those of us who are searching and wanting answers and want to be part of something bigger, that we can have the space to mess up. That we are allowed the space to ask question, to be loud, to even be angry and cynical. This is so much a part of the journey. Failure and pain in one step of the journey, will give us the grace and wisdom to move onto the next. So give us the space and compassion during times of failure and pain, so that the grace and wisdom to move forth may be done more easily and less violently. And, be open to what we have to say because even when it doesn’t seem right in your eyes, we are seeing something on a different level and realm that you may not understand. So give us compassion to be wrong and give us space to be right.
This is really the point of all these blogs this week. Help create a space to have and create relationships. Help us in our asking questions and formulating answers. Encourage and love us when we are apathetic. Validate us and give us the space to feel like what we see is wrong and that we need a change. Give us the space to be loud, depressed and anxious. When you do that, you will find the evident light that is my generation. A generation that is really like no other. One that has high hopes and dreams for the future.