Few things are more of a messy paradox in life than human sexuality. Having sex and expressing sexuality are some of the most anticipated moments in any human beings life. Yet, human sexuality is often filled with a lot of baggage, a lot of pain. It is often a source of fear and anxiety. Psychologist Dan Allender puts it this way “Sex changes the heart. It brings forth either a chorus of praise, wonder and joy or a song of sorrow and harm.”
Human beings are sexual beings. Not having sex is not an option. I don’t think any of us is interested in any forms of society depicted in Children of Men. Not having sex is also not an option because we are emotionally, psychologically and neurologically wired for it. On top of that, our society drives everything off of sex.
Our society runs off of sex. Most forms of popular advertising is sex driven. The Porn industry typically accumulates between four and ten billion dollars a year. Social and peer pressure is pressuring kids to lose their virginity earlier and earlier. All of this isn’t helped by the fact that children are hitting puberty younger and younger all the time. Some reports showing that some children it by the age of seven. This amongst other things have created a form of sexual revolution for young people.
Sexual Statistics involving teens and young adults:
-Average age of virginity loss in America: 17 (Durex Global 2005)
-Within the college aged years, 82% of people have engaged in some form of casual sex. (Glamour.com)
-Around 50-60% of people engaged in sexual activity are responsible with Birth Control. (Glamour.com)
– Friends with Benefits and casual sex are extremely common forms of sexual activity.
– Sexual activity with young adults and teenagers are decreasing. (Lifeitnews.com)
While teenagers and young adults are having less sex over the past decade, the trend has moved away from committed and marital relationships and more into casual sex. At the same time, more and more adults are reporting to not only be having more sex (average around 127 per year) but half of married couples have reported to be perfectly satisfied with their sexual activity (Durex Global 2010).
My fear is that the hyper-sexual culture that we live in and the transition from committed and marital relationships is causing great damage to my generation. I’m afraid that my generation is missing out on the true wholeness and blessing of sexuality because it is not being treated as anything more than self-pleasure, void-filling and a manipulating form of cheap marketing. I fear that we will miss out on the mirroring that God gives to us in sexuality, the very real reality of oneness with another human being and we must endure the very painful side-effects of degrading sexuality. Sex is one of the most glorious human acts given to us by God but done wrongly it dehumanizes to the lowest form of human life.