The dangers of sex are truly some of the most haunting thing known to human life. There is a good reason that the Bible has places an emphasis on sexual immorality (although often used to abuse those engaged in it even more). The dangers of sexuality attacks every area of our life: How we think, how we feel, how we relate, how we spend our resources, etc…. This was my fear in yesterday’s blog. That when sex is no longer viewed as sacred, we are losing our lives. Harmful sexuality kills people from the inside out.
In recent studies they have showed that around 40-50% of people end up regretting their casual sex after they are finished. This is more prominent in women. Dr. Donald Joy revealed in the 80’s what casual sex does is callous our actual longings. The person who engages in casual sex neglects their longings of their heart, mind and soul and begins to believe that what they have is what they want and they are no longer capable of handling the true intimate longing of their souls. Their souls have been scarred by the union of souls that don’t love and care for the other and degrade their humanity.
Media is one of the fastest and great contributing factors of the sexual degrading of humanity. In every day the human being sees between 3000-5000 advertisements a day. Advertisements that are often filled with unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others in body image and expectations of the others. Contributing to the unrealistic expectations isn’t helped by the billions being poured into the Porn Industry. The human brain is scarred with the memories of each image and sequence of film they see of pornography. Images and sequences that take years and years to remove. The person addicted to pornography often has the same form of trauma in their brain as a sexual abuse victim.
I firmly believe that Sexual Abuse and Trafficking is the greatest human epidemic facing the world today.It is estimated that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will be sexually abused in their lifetime. In Dan Allender’s book Wounded Hearts he says all Sexual Abuse victims face the mindset that “The Horror of change is that it appears to involve a death that resurrection cannot restore.” The best mindset of a sexual abuse victim is a mere hope to just survive until death. Often, the awakening of the repressed memories are often more traumatic and horrible than the actual events themselves. Ellen Bass in her book Beginning To Heal recalls this about her sexual abuse encounter “If I’d known anything could hurt this much or be this sad, I never would have healed. And at the same time you can’t go back. You can’t sweep it under the rug.” The pain and trauma of Sexual Abuse and Trafficking destroys every part of the persons life. Their ability to receive any form of pleasure because what was supposed to be pleasurable is now tainted with shame. All you are left with is a highly paranoid, shame-filled and vacant being, that dies when it seeks for what all souls are seeking for: Love, Longing, and Knowing.
When we deny God’s original intentions of sexuality we are on a fast-paced road for inconceivable pain that fills our soul. People become the objects of our degraded desires rather than a portal in which God pours live through each other. That life is the true glory of sexuality. The glory of God being poured from us to each other and us to God.
(Yesterday’s Blog on the State of Sexuality- http://wp.me/pFnzm-fZ)