One of the most beautiful images of human relationship in the Bible is what happens when two people have sex. There is this beautiful fusion between the two people. Two people participating in intercourse become one. They are connected in mind, body, and soul. There is something overwhelmingly captivating about human intimacy when we can know each other so deeply. We penetrate through each other’s entire being and share something with one another.
This is why sex can never happen between two individuals. Philosopher Martin Buber made the point that human evil expands when people aren’t able to operate out of an I-Thou relationship. When we fail to think beyond ourselves, our urges, our temptations, then sexuality becomes one of the most powerful mechanisms to dehumanization. Now we can imagine why things like sexual abuse and trafficking subject the victim to the greatest form of human brokenness. They become one with a violent perpetrator, who couldn’t care less about the psychological and emotional torture that they are bringing upon this person. When sexuality is not considered in the mindset of oneness, then they are using one another as a means to an end. This person is the object of my gratification.
This sacred oneness is a powerful connection that has the ability to destroy human beings, or to create the most powerful bond between two people. This bond has the ability to break our lives, or it has the ability to create life (both in the sense of procreation and in the sense of a spiritual growing activity). My curiosity, as a not-yet-married person, what does oneness look like?