One of the biggest struggles that we human beings face on this earth is to be present in the moment we live in. We live in a very strong struggle when our thoughts and our feelings try to get us to escape from what is right in front of us. The longer I live, the more I believe that the present moment is almost too powerful for a human being to endure. We have built far too many self-defense mechanisms in order to avoid the pain that is not only within us, but is around us. Likewise, we have come to believe far too many lies and have learned to escape the joy that awaits us in the present moment.
The greatest agents of change who I have come to know all have something in common: they have learned how to begin to surrender the need to control. The need to control is one of the greatest inner demons that we will struggle with in this life. When we haven’t learned how to live in reality that is beyond our preferred way, we become frustrated, bitter, and filled with contempt. We become unnecessarily angry with others and struggle with dealing with our own problems because we are too preoccupied with regaining control. Maybe this is why people who want control so much live in a deeply out of control state. This is why Jesus was such a master of life when he taught, “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” He was begging us to live in this moment. Trying to control anything beyond this moment, what is right in front of us, is deeply hazardous to ourselves and those around us. People who have learned how to live without control have learned one of the greatest lessons in what it means to be a free human being.