I was taught growing up that premarital sex is bad. In fact, the environment that I was in would shame me if I was involved in any form of sexual idolatry. However, because of my love for the Bible and the beauty that God created in sexual oneness, I agree that it is absolutely best to wait for marriage.
My generation (the Millenials…dare I say ‘woot, woot’?) is getting married later and later. Most men these days aren’t getting married until they’re 29 and most women aren’t getting married until they’re 27. Can we hold this ideal until we are almost 30? My generation is also hitting puberty at the earliest point in human history (some girls hit puberty as early as seven!). Most people’s bodies are physically wired for sex at age 13. Can we honestly ask this generation to endure 15-20 years of repressed sexuality?
Sexual repression often comes with great consequences. It can lead to poor self-esteem, depression, and even things like aggressive behavior or suicidal thoughts. Sexual expression is also healthy for the individual. Sex often leads to reduced stress, better immune systems, cardiovascular health, it helps reduce several types of cancer, and helps you sleep more (among many, many more).
I don’t think the human body is meant to abstain from sex this long (physiologically or spiritually). The question, I believe, is how do we as a church help young adults? Do we begin forming a localized institution of e-harmony and help people get married younger (and help deal with the problems of young married couples)? Or do we disavow our stance on premarital sex? What can the church do to help people find ideal living in non-ideal times?
Thanks to Adam McLane at Youth Cartel for spurring on my thinking on this topic.