Dealing With Your Perfectionism

I am, in many ways, a perfectionist. I obsess over little details, events that have transpired throughout the day, ways in which I could have done better, or how I can constantly be improving. Perfectionism is exhausting. Perfectionism is the enemy of the good. Which is why I believe perfectionists have a hard time receiving love. They aren’t quite good enough to receive love. Or, the love they are receiving isn’t perfect enough for them. Either way, perfectionism is a hard way to live out your humanity.

As Richard Rohr would say, “Perfection is perfectly accepting your imperfections.” In accepting— and—  even learning to love the imperfections within yourself and around you, you really begin to learn to love things that might not seem lovable. You don’t idealize things or people. You find immense love for what is. And, you allow your cup to overflow, because life is overflowing with goodness.


5 thoughts on “Dealing With Your Perfectionism

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  2. lamehousewife says:

    i was actually discerning this very idea today…could there be a difference between struggling for the Perfection Who is Jesus by letting ourselves be transformed, moving away from sin, allowing him to conquer that which is evil inside, while not worrying about the more petty and temporal perfections that people worry about, like hair, clothes, money, etc…perhaps seeking eternal goods which are always perfect rather than that which will pass away is the better way to think of it? i don’t know…what do you think?

    • Mike Friesen says:

      Absolutely. I think the very notion of perfectionism is found in a systemic view of what I ought to be (which permeates into a subjective reality). Which is some of the things that I am talking about. But, it is also a moralistic and legalistic, form of perfectionism that gets us in trouble. Some of this I struggle with as well.

      But, the degree to which we are called into perfection, is to be transformed into Christ’s-likeness and allow his grace to permeate these said imprefections.

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